How often do you find yourself missing the present moment, because you’re captured by either regrets from the past or worries of the future?
If it’s more times that you can count, then you are not alone. According to the ADAA, 40 million American adults suffer from anxiety. That is more than a mental health issue, it is a mindfulness concern.
The dictionary defines anxiety as, “a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome.” In essence, feeling anxious means to live everywhere except in the now.
What is it to live mindfully?
As displayed by the Positive Psychology Program, there is no shortage of definitions for this concept that Americans cannot seem to grasp. Piecing them all together, to be mindful is to live in the now, and to hold awareness and perspective of your current state.
What is the Now?
Now refers to all that is real in the present moment.
It is not memories of the past, or dreams of a future, but rather you as you are in this breath: your immediate feelings, physical state, everything real that you can touch, see, hear, smell, and taste from your surroundings, and the people physically with you.
How Can One Awaken to Now?
The easy answer is through living mindfully.
The more complicated answer explains ways to practice mindfulness. Dr. Shefali Tsabary, author of, "The Awakened Family: A Revolution in Parenting," explains that living in the present is key to living a joyful life. During an interview about her book, "The Awakened Family: A Revolution in Parenting," she offers steps to strengthening the parent-child relationship, and ultimately for securing a joyful living, which can be applied to anyone’s life, whether you are a parent or not:
1. Gain awareness about your lack of presence.
2. Admit it is not working, and take accountability for all the problems your lack of awareness causes.
3. Accept some type of discipline or training to rewrite your mind for the now.
As she mentions, though her book is geared toward the parent-child relationship, you can apply these mindful actions to improve any relationship as well as the one you have with yourself.
Awakening to the now, through personal perspective and awareness, are major keys in attaining Happytalism - the concept created of all qualities that us to thriving as individuals and as a society.
Every piece of personal awakening translates to producing a more peaceful and sustainable society in a couple of ways. Once you awaken to now, you will discover an inner peace that is projectable. As a result, better relationships will develop, more people will feel appreciated, heard, understood, and valued, which perpetuates into a happier, more compassionate society.
Living in the now is something that anyone can do, starting today, starting right now.
Awaken to the now, for it is the only true moment in existence; it is the moment where joy emanates, where peace ensues, and where society prospers. The now is the moment for Happytalism.